Emotional development means understanding your feelings, how to name them, understanding how and why they happen, and developing effective ways of managing them. Children learn how to handle emotions by the examples set for them by their teachers, caregivers, and parents. As children grow and are exposed to different situations their emotional lives also become more complex. Developing skills for managing a range of emotions is important for our wellbeing.
If you never learned how to effectively manage your emotions, it can negatively affect your life. For example, you may experience difficulties at work, problems in social situations, and struggle to maintain healthy relationships. Recognizing the connection between childhood neglect or traumatic experiences and personal relationships can help is manage our unwanted emotional behavior. Having the right coping mechanisms and tools to properly manage our emotions can have a positive impact all our relationships.
There are life skills that can help manage unwanted feelings, improving your communications skills, identifying trigger situations, improving your emotional intelligence and most importantly understanding what coping mechanisms you have express and mange anger.
“Anger is a result of an unmet need. Our early education on anger is learned from childhood.”
Stress, financial issues, abuse, and overwhelming requirements on your time and energy can all contribute to feelings of anger. In stressful situations, you may find yourself quick to yell or start shouting, isolate or feel sorry for yourself. But when you are at work, this kind of behavior could seriously harm your professional reputation, as well as your productivity.
Emotions are not put on hold when we are at work, when we are in love, and especially in our everyday lives. Our decision-making process is rooted in emotion, from happiness and joy to anxiety and fear. Whether you’re having a good laugh over a text message or feeling frustrated in rush hour traffic, you know that the highs and lows you experience can significantly affect your well-being. Uncontrolled anger can affect your relationships, your job and your health.
There are signs you can look for if you think your emotions may be negatively impacting your everyday life. Are your communication skills weak? How is your overall quality of life? Do you find yourself having recurrent aggressive outbursts?